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Pill That Keeps You Average

Sunday, May 20th, 2012

Did you know there is a pill to keep you average?

 

More than 80% of the people in the world are on this

medication (pill).

 

This pill is free. It has no side effects (visible). It’s said

to be  safe.

 

Your boss and co-workers are glad that you take them.

 

Your family would like you to get off this pill, but they

are afraid of what “may” happen if things don’t work out.

So, they would rather you continue taking this pill versus

trying something that may not work or getting off the pill

altogether. Then, average would not be acceptable and

a lifestyle of trying various things is too unsettling for

them.

 

 

You, in the back of your mind, know you shouldn’t be

taking this pill. You know you can do better without it,

but you have been taking it for so long, you are kind of

“used” to it. Besides, its not that bad- considering.

 

Have you guessed what the pill is?

It is “Complacency”.

 

When a person becomes complacent, she stops looking

for new ways. She becomes conditioned to “life as usual.”

She knows in her mind that there are a lot of opportunities

that awaits her. She knows that she could possibly change

the world if she takes a chance. But, her mind and heart

have taken up residence where she is. She’s comfort-

able. Life is not great, but it ain’t too bad.

 

Complacency is the thief of creativity.  It is the barrier

to new ground. Whatever lies beyond what we know and

where we could go-  is stifled

or hidden by complacency.

 

Complacency is following the routine. Doing what

everybody else is doing. Becoming a clone in “Average”

society. It keeps us comfortable, yet uneventful.

 

We were all given a unique set of gifts and allowed the

opportunity to visit this world to share those gifts.  If we

leave here without sharing our gifts, it is as if we were

never here. We were never put on the earth to forever

“follow the leader”. We are supposed to follow the leader

until we have learned to lead, ourselves. And then, we are

to take our gifts and reveal things to this world like no one

else can. Besides, no one can do what you can. You are unique.

You have a special set of gifts that only you can share

with the world.

 

So, what are you waiting for? Get out of that complacent

house, shed those complacent clothes and get out of that

complacent mindset and make heaven proud by doing what

you were sent here to do- “Be you and share your gifts!”

 

The world is waiting on you. There are no more refills

on your average pills. Yesterday was your last day of

average. Today, you will do things like no one else.

Tomorrow, you will use your gifts and talents to sign your

name on this earth, because of what you did and shared

with the world, we will know that “You were here.”

 

Ray

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Enough- Separation & Divorce (Special Message)

Saturday, April 21st, 2012

Enough!!!

Enough= suficiente, 足够, dost, genoeg, sapat, assez, αρκετά, ase, cukup, leor, abbastanza, 十分な, satis, pakankamai, cukup, достаточно, kutosha, tillräckligt, พอ, yeterli, đủ, digon, etc., etc., etc.

No matter how you want to say it, it all means the same thing- ENOUGH.

For years, I have been scratching my head as couples marry and then un-marry. For years, I have sat back and watched people go their separate ways over simple, fixable, resolvable problems. For years, I have been baffled as seemingly great marriages fell apart without notice. For years, I have even questioned if my own marriage could survive, because how can my marriage ,which is  mediocre at times, survive if great marriages are falling apart? And now, most recently, I have been hearing more and more about people who have been married for 20+ years now calling it quits. But Today, I will not sit around and watch. Today, I will not turn the other way. Today, I will not hide in the closet and wonder if my marriage has a fighting chance. Today, I  say “Enough!”

Enough already! No More! No Mas!

What is going on with our society to where we have dumbed down the sanction of marriage to the point where we feel that we can just part for no reason at all? What can possibly be taking place between two people that would allow them to struggle together through their younger years, grow together through the mid-life, and then part ways when they should be living the so-called “Good life”?

What is going on? What is happening? Do we not realize the world was build on marriage and unity? Do we not know that Marriage is the foundation of our society? Do we not know that unity and marriage are the fibers to which our universe exist. So, what do we think is going to happen when marriage becomes extinct?

What would happen to a house if you snatched the foundation from underneath it? The entire house will crumble. So it is with our families, communities, societies, nations and the world. If we allow marriages to be dumbed down to the point where they are no longer significant, then we will not need to be challenged by war with another so-called “super-power.” We will become our own enemy and we will implode as a nation. Enough already!

We are in trouble and it is time for someone to say something about it before it is too late. So, today I say “Enough”.

Today, I say that it is time for us to put marriage back into its rightful place. It is time that we re-define marriage before we say “I do” and we remember and discuss its true purpose before we say “I don’t”.

Today is the day. We can either continue down this pathway that would lead to nothing good or we can change directions and return to the path were righteousness presides. Today is the day.

First, I want to charge you…

  1. If you are married, commit to stay married.
  2. If there has been a major event that took place in your life (children left home, spouse sick, lost job, etc.) communicate and refocus. You can not continue down the same road with the same mindset when major events take place. You have to change your mindset.
  3. If you are in relationship with a married person that is not your spouse, cut it off. Stop it.
  4. Find a challenge or goal in life that will exceed your life time. With all the money that Bill and Melinda Gates has, one of the things that has kept them together is they found a common enemy (providing medical and food to third world countries) that they know they will not be able to defeat in their lifetime. If your challenge was to get more money, what would happen when you finally had more money? You will lose focus on what’s important and start fighting each other or feel that you have nothing else in common and go your separate ways. Find a big enemy and go after it.
  5. Have fun. I have never, never ever, ever seen someone get married because they were having fun. This is the key to staying together- having fun.

Enough!

Second, I want to remind you…

  1. Relationship go up and down, while they are growing. So, don’t be angry that your relationship sometimes go down. It means that it is living and growing.
  2. Marriage is the most challenging relationship, but it is the most rewarding one. Stay in there.
  3. True love is not about what someone else can do for you. True love is displayed when you are so focused on what you can do for someone else.
  4. You are supposed to be different. Don’t separate because you are different. If you weren’t different, then why would you need to get married?
  5. Marriage is work. Just like a job, if you stop working, you stop getting paid. When you stop getting paid, you are not able to enjoy a lot of things. When you stop working on your marriage, you are no longer able to give and you no longer are able to reap the benefits.

Enough!

Third, I want to encourage you…

  1. Love your spouse like they are the best thing in the world.
  2. Respect and honor your spouse.
  3. Never give up. Even if that means getting counseling, moving to a different state, changing jobs, whatever! One of the greatest things you can do is focus and stay committed to your marriage.
  4. Encourage others to stay marriage. When you see a couple struggling, intervene. Point them in the right direction. By them marriage books and materials that would help them. Take them out on the town for a day of clean, good fun.
  5. Find out the purpose of marriage, re-establish your foundation, creates some disciplines in your marriage, and make some goals (5, 10, 15, 20, 25, 50 years) for marriage and do whatever it takes to meet them.

Enough!

Lastly, I want you to join with me in the fight against separation and divorce. Today, lets all say ENOUGH!

Pass this article on to every couple you know , especially those contemplating divorce. Make YouTube videos using this information. Tweet someone to read this. Post this on Facebook. Send it to your co-workers, family members and friends. Make t-shirts and hats with “ENOUGH” on them. Whatever creative ideas you can think of, lets do it.

This is where the extinction of marriages and astronomical divorce rates stop. Today, we say enough. Not only does our society and nation depend on it, the future of the coming generations do as well. Taking a stand is not an option, it is necessary.

It is ENOUGH!

Enough

Enough

 

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Your Enemy

Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

Enemy?

Do you know what or who your enemy is?

When I say enemy, I am not necessarily only talking about a person. An enemy could be a mindset, a challenge, an obstacle, a roadblock, something that you lack.

In other words, an enemy is something or someone that stands in the way of where you are trying to go in life.

What is your enemy? Low self-esteem, finances, your past, a hidden secret, negative thoughts, and addiction, unworthiness, lack of confidence, loneliness, complaining, arrogance, a partner that is going the opposite way, a boss that does not appreciate you, co-workers that are jealous of you, a wayward child that consumes all of your time and money, family members that pull versus push, a health issue, etc., etc., etc.

As you can see, I can go on and on. Although the list above is filled with mostly negative thing, here’s the BIG positive- what’s worst than having numerous enemies is not knowing who or what your enemy is!

When you lose site of your enemy, you are in trouble.

I have seen friendships fall apart, because they lost site of the enemy. I’ve seen people go astray because they lost site of the enemy. I have seen some of the strongest relationships crumble, because they forgot about their enemy.

Listen and listen closely…One of the things that keep us growing and thriving is opposition (enemies). When there is no more opposition, one loses strength and becomes feeble. When that happens, the will to hope and conquer, attempt and succeed, and connect and cooperate dissolves, disappears, and fades away.

When you figure out what your challenge (enemy) is, whether it is within a relationship, on your job, or life in general- please write it down, frame it and keep it before your eyes. Never lose site of your enemy until it is defeated. When and only when that happens, you should never sit back to relax and enjoy the rest of life. No way. Find yourself another enemy. If not, you will start to attack yourself or those closest to you. Either way, the end could be detrimental.

 

Know your enemy

 

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Job- You’re Working Too Hard

Sunday, April 8th, 2012

Job is where we all have to be, but guess what? You’re working too hard…for them!

 

Isn’t it amazing how many years we spend “on” the job? How much time we spend “at” the job? And how much of our youth, the job takes away?

That is simply amazing to me. How many of our good years we give to a job! Sometimes we don’t even like the job, we can’t tolerate the people, and we would rather be soaking in a tub filled with squid than to be cooped up at that place we call the job.

So, why go? Why do we spend our “good” years there? Why do we miss our children growing up all in the sake of being at work? Why do we miss our most romantic years to be stressed out, discontent, and experts in putting up with stuff and people we despise? Why?

We have to.

Many of us have never been taught the real reason for work. We work to live, but we live to work. In other words, we are on the job to feed our families and pay the bills, but the job is not what will give us “the” life. The experience that we get while on the job, should spill over in to our personal lives where we work for ourselves and profit as a result.

Here’s the bottom line…when we spend our lives “on” the job, we are doing a work that should prepare us with the skills and experience we need for our efforts that take place “off” the job.

 

Job ≠ wealth

 

It’s what you do off the job that will determine if you live abundantly or barely make ends meet.

Think about it…Maybe that explains why some people are the hardest workers on the job but struggle after hours, and some people are mediocre workers on the job yet they are living the life after they leave the job. It is all what you do off the job that will determine what kind of life you live. Watch TV from the time you get home until the time you go to sleep, and you will look around in a few years and wonder while you are in so much debt and can’t take the vacations you feel you should be able to or buy the things you like. Work just as hard after hours for yourself, and during those same years you will find yourself enjoying the good life.

Here it is in a nutshell, no one should work harder for someone else than they should for themselves. Because when it is all said and done, the same company that you have sweated blood and tears for will have a layoff and guess who will go? I have seen some of the best and hardest workers get laid off during the first round of layoffs. The sad part is, they walk away scratching their heads wondering what they will do next. On the flip side, I have seen some mediocre workers get laid off as well, but they were not scratching their heads. They put their full efforts in the work that came after the job. Some of them never returned back to a job, because they found success in what they were doing.

I like to encourage you to find a work, a mission, a purpose that is outside of your job. Put at least 50% (or more) in those efforts. Those things are what will bring you the life that you desire. They will be what you will look at during the end of your lifespan and feel fulfilled. Not your job. Your purpose. Your mission. Your passion. Those are what makes life worth living and the benefits are abundant.

 

“Work harder on yourself than you do on your job. If you work hard on your job, you will earn a living. If you work hard on yourself (or the things that you were destined to do, you will earn a fortune.”  Jim Rohn

 

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Change- Immediate Vs. Progressive

Saturday, March 31st, 2012

Change, change, change.

Someone once asked why I am so patient. It took me a moment to think about it, but I quickly responded “most lasting change takes place at a progressive pace and not an immediate one.”

You may be scratching your head trying to figure out what that means. It is simple.

Yesterday, someone(s) won over $640 million in the Mega Millions lottery. What that means is that, overnight, that person’s life has drastically changed- forever. But, what really changed? Their mentality? Their physical state? Or their spiritual state?

Here’s a clue. Their mental or spiritual status was unchanged. So, now that they have all this money, they are still spiritually and mentally the same.

Now, that is not to say that they can’t or won’t change mentally or spiritually. However, those parts of them didn’t change overnight. I once heard a staggering statistic that three out of every four people that win the lottery find themselves in debt or bankrupt within 5 years. Why is that?

Money does not change who you are.

Money amplifies who you are. If you are hateful before you get money, then you will be more hateful after you get money. On the flip side, if you are compassionate before you get money you will be more compassionate after you get money. Now, I realize that this isn’t always the case, but it is more than 99% of the time.

So, like winning the lottery, when there is a sudden or immediate change, more than likely your mentality or mindset is still the same.

So, change that comes progressively(over time), gives your mind the opportunity to change as well allowing you the ability to handle the change.

Let’s look at money again. You are in the financial situation that you are in because of the decisions you have made- good or bad, over time. Over time, you developed a mindset to be in debt. Therefore, your mind is debt-ridden.  If you received a significant amount of money immediately, because your mindset is debt-ridden, in little or no time you will find yourself back in debt.Your mind has not been changed.

I was talking to a group of people the other day and asked them how many of them were in debt. All raised their hands. I asked how long did it take them to get into debt that were currently in. Most said it took them years. Then I asked the magic question, “What would you do if I gave you enough money to pay off your debt today?” What do you think they said? Let me save you some time. None of them said they would use all the money to pay off their bills. A few said they would use some, but none said they would pay off their entire debt.

Isn’t that interesting. Mentally,  they were still in debt. So, no matter how much money they received, they were in debt mentally and could not remain out of debt physically.

So, understanding that progressive change lasts a whole lot longer than an immediate one, produces patience. Although you may want a lot of things to happen right away, I encourage you to be patient and allow the process of change to happen in your whole person. Only then will you be ready for change and be able to handle it when it comes.

Change

Progressive Change is Beautiful

 

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Wheat- Dangerous and Unhealthy?

Sunday, January 15th, 2012

Listen, I know you are not going to believe this, because I don’t. But I must tell you because it is my obligation to share with you things as I learn them. So here it goes…

Wheat is not good for you!

I was talking to a young lady a few days ago. She was telling me that she was going to be doing a class on health. And of course I am always looking for ways to be more healthy. So, I listened. She started talking about some of the diseases we have seen spiked in recent decades- heart disease, diabetes, colon cancer, etc. Her next statement made my jaw drop. “Those things are all caused by the wheat we currently eat.”

What?

That’s right! What the so called nutritionists and health professionals have been telling us to eat more of is actually what is causing our poor health. No way! Yes way!

The author of Wheat Belly, William Davis, actually breaks down this reality. He is a practicing cardiologist. He explains how he slipped up on the wheat revelation accidentally while recommending some healthier living habits to his patients.

He talks about after suggesting some of his patients remove wheat from their diets for 90 days to see if that made a difference, that upon their next visit, those patients weighed 20, 30, and 50 lbs less. They were now diabetes-free, asthma was all but gone, and they had more energy. Of course, this caused the doctor to launch head first into a wheat research, and he found more than he was looking for. He discusses all of this information and more in Wheat Belly.

Do yourself a favor, pick up the book today. It is eye-opening and amazing. I am sold and will remove wheat from my life starting today.

* If you made a New Year’s Resolution to lose those unwanted pounds and maybe some belly fat, a wheat-less diet may be your answer. Get the book and you will see what I mean.

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Anti-Social

Friday, December 9th, 2011

Who Cares?

Why do we waste so much time watching T.V. shows that specialize in looking into celebrities’ personal lives?

Who cares that Kim Kardashian got married, and divorced all before the season of her tv show ended? What will they do next season? How about for next season, she can get a divorce before she even gets married?

So what, Justin Bieber is on vacation with his girlfriend? No Bieber fever here.

Alec Baldwin was kicked off a plane. Really? Was he the first person ever to get kicked off? Let’s talk about those who never got on.

J Lo has separated from Mark Anthony and is dating a 24 year old dancer. Oh well, she loves dancing and she loves younger dancers! Whoop de do!

So what. So what! So what!!!

Here’s my point…We really don’t care and should we? These people are entertainers (some good and some not), but the truth is that while we pay attention (sometimes too much), we don’t really care.

There are more things, more important things, to be concerned about other than a celebrity and his/her personal life. We have our own personal lives to be concerned. Most times, they are personal lives that are not that  glamorous and even worse than those of the so called celebrities.

The sad thing about it is that while we are watching what is going on in their personal lives, they are getting richer and our lives are getting worse.

Isn’t it time for us to mind our “own” business? Isn’t it time for us to spend 25% of the time figuring out what is wrong with us and 75% of the time trying to fix it? That would leave zero time to worry, pay attention to, or be concerned about someone we know very little about. Enough already.

Going to read a book.

 

 

 

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It’s Your Gift, Now Use It?

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011

I am so amazed, now, that I realize how much time people spend trying to perfect things they are not good at!

 

I mean if you are good at something, why not perfect that and become better. Most of the time, the very thing that you are good at takes little or no effort and is virtually stress-less. The very thing that you are good at will likely be the thing that will bring you wealth, prosperity, and peace.

A famous proverb says “A man’s gift will make room for him and will place him before great kings.”

Contrary to popular belief, one shouldn’t waste time on “trying” to get better at something they are not good at. If you can’t sing, then why waste years trying to become a great singer?

Most people, if they were honest with you, can attest that they have spent years attempting to do something they were not good at. Wasted time.

One man said it like this, “perfect what you are good at and contain what you are not”.

When you realize your success is locked up in your talent, then you will stop chasing empty dreams around and start living the life that you were destined to live.

Do what you are good at doing and your life will become that much more enjoyable.

 

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The Problem With Ted Williams ‘Golden Voice’

Monday, January 24th, 2011

I just read that Ted Williams left rehab. That news was accompanied by hundreds of people who knew it wouldn’t last, considered Ted hopeless from the beginning, and almost gloated in the fact that they knew it was bound to happen. Others are surprised by Ted’s actions and can’t understand what happened. But it is really very simple.

What’s the problem with Ted Williams? It is too much. He has what I call mental whiplash. What is whiplash? It’s when several things happen all at once and the receiver is not capable, or shall I say prepared, to handle those things. So, he feels paralyzed. He doesn’t know what to do. He doesn’t know what to say. He doesn’t know what to think. He doesn’t know where to go. He is paralyzed. It is too much for him to handle- right now.

Let’s go through the stages. Here you have a homeless man. He is either a crack addict or was a crack addict. And he is an alcoholic. These are all issues- life changing issues. So, Ted is a middle aged man filled with issues/problems. After years of learning how to survive on the street, he gets a lucky break. Someone sees him and gives him the opportunity to show off his gift- the golden voice. After he gives them a taste of his million dollar voice, they are shocked. Stunned. Like you and I, they had to be thinking what anyone else would have thought. What in the world is a person this gifted doing homeless? Unable to figure this impossible question out, they feel the need to do what any other good hearted person would do. Help. So, they take the video and put it onto Youtube hoping not only to show millions of people the gift of this fascinating voice but to also somehow or someway see if he can get a lucky break. He does.

Before long, this homeless man with issues/problems is now being offered opportunities. Things that only you and I can dream of. Calls from Mr. Trump. Calls from Kraft. Calls from the Cleveland Cavaliers and many, many  more. Finally, his problems are solved, right? Wrong.

In spite of all the offers and lucky breaks, what people fail to realize is that beyond this ‘golden voice’ is a broken man with problems, a man with issues. Those issues and problems have been some of the things that has led him to where he is in life today- homeless. In order for Ted Williams to rebound after a life of hard  knocks and hard times, he has to deal with the very issues that caused him to be where he is. Those things are what make him, him. They are on the inside. The job offers, opportunities, and overnight good fortune are external. They do not change the inside.

The problem with getting only external changes is the internal remains the same- broken. A person has the potential to implode. And this is what is happening to the golden voice. The pressure of everything from the outside is causing his weak inside to collapse.

The solution, not just for Mr. Williams but for the rest of the world…During the quiet times in your life, the times when nothing is going right, the times where you may feel in the dumps, and you find yourself all but forgotten by society- that is the perfect time to work on you. Work on building your character. Deal with your issues and shortcomings. And do whatever it takes to become stable, solid and well-grounded as a person. Those quiet times, slow periods, and low days are needed but they don’t last always. One day, the world will pull up to your corner and say “let us see what you have”. It is then when we want you to explode with success and not implode with problems.

Get well Mr. Ted Williams. We look forward to not only hearing “the Golden Voice” again, but also seeing the wonderful man who owns it. 

Ray L. Owensby

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Your Last New Year’s Resolution

Saturday, January 1st, 2011

New Year’s Resolutions. We all make them because on December 31st we are coming into a new year and it is just the norm to set new goals, new hopes, and new aspirations. Besides, if last year wasn’t very good- who wants to repeat it? So, we throw out big dreams, yell out outrageous desires, and write down impossible goals. Only to dismiss them and forget about them before the end of February. Why? Why do we go through the hoopla of this tradition year after year when they don’t come to pass? If resolutions don’t work, why do we go through the motions every year?

Before we talk about why resolutions don’t work and discuss a better alternative that works 80% better, Let’s look at the 10 most common resolutions.

10 Most common New Year’s Resolutions:

  1.  Weight Loss
  2.  Exercise
  3.  Stop Smoking
  4.  Eat Right
  5.  Stop Procrastinating
  6.  Save Money
  7.  Reduce stress
  8.  Get better job
  9.  Manage debt
  10.  Get better education

 

Did you see one of your 2011 resolutions there? Here’s a better question, did you have one of these as your 2010 resolution? Here is the ultimate question, did you accomplish your 2010 resolution? If not, don’t feel bad. Most didn’t. So, why do we continue to make resolutions year after year and never accomplish what we said we would at the beginning of each year? Here’s the answer, New year’s resolutions are not supposed to be accomplished? Does that surprise you? Let me explain.

The word resolution means “a formal determination”. To determine means to proclaim, hope or desire. In other words, a resolution is nothing more than a wish. You wish to lose weight. You wish to save money. You wish to get a better job. However, when one wishes and adds no action to them, they are only dreaming. What happens when you wake up from dreaming, usually nothing. So it is in the month of February. After the newness of New Years have worn off and the commonality and the familiar begins to settle in, you wake up from your dreams- and nothing happens. Everything that you resoluted (wished) to do has fallen by the wayside and you find the familiar footsteps of yester-year and start the routine all over again. Is there a better way? You bet.

First of all, we have to get rid of the word “resolution”. Like we mentioned before, resolutions are nothing more than dreams. So, what word can we use to replace resolution? It has to be something that speaks “action” and not merely about dreaming. How about achievements, acts, fulfillments, or accomplishments. All these words speak of action. Not only that, but they speak of something that has already been completed and not something you wish to complete. That makes a world of difference. For the sake of this discussion, I will use the word “acts”.

So, how do we get our New Year’s Acts to work? I am glad you asked. There are three things that must happen in order to fulfill the acts you have established at the beginning of the year:

  1.  Have something to accomplish
  2.  Map out what you want to accomplish
  3.  Set achievable dates

 

For the most part, we get step number one right. We know what we want to accomplish or achieve. We want to lose weight. We want to go back to school. We want to get a better job. We want to de-stress our lives. However, this is where we stop and ultimately the reason our plans- FAIL.

The second part is important. You have to dissect or breakdown in smaller pieces what you want to accomplish. For example, if you want to lose 30 pounds by June, you have to lose 5 lbs a month. You have to change your exercise schedule monthly. You also have to change what you eat or don’t eat per month. That may sound difficult, but it is really simple. Is it easier to lose 5 lbs or 30 lbs? Well, 5 is the correct answer. If I asked you could you lose 5 lbs, you would probably say “of course”. So the key is losing 5 lbs in Jan, losing 5 in Feb, then in March and so on. You may also want to change one exercise routine in Jan, then add another in Feb, then another in March. Same with your eating habits. Change one habit in Jan, then another in Feb, then one in March and so on. Before long, you will be in the month of June minus the 30 lbs you started with. You heard the saying, how do you eat an elephant- one bite at a time. That is so true in many ways.

Thirdly, you have to set achievable dates. A person who sets dates will achieve 50-80% more than someone who doesn’t. Dates don’t have to be too specific or too broad. One lady who was trying to stop smoking said that every 15 days, she would smoke 1 cigarette less from her average cigarette daily routine. Simply put, she started out smoking 10 cigarettes a day. Every 15 days, she cut out one cigarrette. By the end of  May, she was down to only one cigarette a day. By June 15th, she stopped smoking altogether. Setting dates is very important. Not setting dates is what keeps your desires in the “dream” arena and away from the “action” one. 

There you have it. If you want to do more than dream this year and greatly desire to see changes in your life, follow the three steps listed above. They will get you to where you want to get to. Fortunately, these are also universal steps. In other words, they will not just work for the beginning of the year but if you apply them in any other area in your life, they will work there too.

Remember, no more resolutions. Call them New Year’s Acts or something that amplifies that action is taking place and that you are not just dreaming. When you do that, you will see results.

 

 

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